Receiving hasn’t always been easy for me. I’m a giver.
Literally, in the Enneagram, that’s my personality type: The Giver or Helper.
It’s oh-so-natural for me to give, to easily put my attention on others. But when it comes time to receive, I have typically felt a certain level of discomfort. I'd brush off a compliment, shy away from attention or turn down gifts or offers of support for no apparent reason.
In my dedicated pursuit of self-awareness over the years, I discovered that my discomfort in receiving stems from a deeply buried sense of unworthiness. My past tendency to turn away from receiving was rooted in an old familiar story, told in a mean-girl voice that said, "You are not worthy ... of that compliment, that support, that love, that fill in the blank."
I looked deeply at the root of this "belief" that I was not worthy and discovered an antidote. I was naturally good at giving to others. Now it was time to turn the focus inward. It was time TO GIVE FULLY TO MYSELF.
Self-care, I discovered, is not Self-ish.
Self-care—for me including candlelit baths, buying myself flowers, taking time to journal, meditate, do yoga and spend time alone in nature—has taught me how to really love and accept all of myself.
Self-care has given me confidence to speak up and let my voice be heard, to believe in my self-worth--despite my flaws and imperfections--and to ultimately be able to receive the abundance and well-being that is my birthright.
There is a constant stream of well-being, abundance and joy available to each and every one of us. Our thoughts, personal beliefs and inner self-talk can either allow that stream to flood into us uninhibited, or shun it away.
What old stories, thoughts or beliefs are holding you back from RECEIVING the abundance, joy and well-being that is Divinely yours?
Write them down. Find out where they began and then forgive. First, forgive yourself for believing them, then forgive others. Intentionally release whatever is not serving your highest good. You can even rip up the page or burn it ceremonially.
Now, re-write your new story, the one where you are FULLY WORTHY of receiving all the abundance, joy and well-being that is available to you always. The story where self-love and self-acceptance heal and empower you to give and receive fully.
What self-care practices will you commit to this coming weekend?
Will you make self-care a part of your daily routine?
Reach out if you'd like support or guidance on your self-care journey.
The time to receive is now.
You are worthy!
Catherine Gregory, CMT, CMI is a meditation instructor and Inner Wisdom coach based in Ft. Collins, Colorado. Learn more about her services and reach out to her at www.fertilebeing.com.